Lots of christian women still just want to be witches. If you’re a woman in America under 60 years of age I expect you have been brainwashed to believe you are in competition with men. But women aren’t in competition with men. Women shouldn’t be in competition with men in the macro, societal ways. And, in the micro ways, a wife should not be in competition in her home with her husband for who’s better, or, who’s more spiritual.
I’ve been workshopping a theory there’s two types of wives, one thinks she is smarter than her husband. The other type thinks her husband is too mean, a.k.a she’s kinder than her husband.
But both of them believe they’re more spiritual than their husband.
Both the I’m-Smarter or the I’m-Kinder wives have an ‘I know best’ or ‘I’m on an elevated spiritual plane’ belief.
This is unsurprising, because this is the sin of Eve – wanting to be more spiritual. And that’s also why women are more inclined to being fortune tellers and witches.
Those examples are an extreme outworking, but scripture does talk about them. The witches and the psychics are so often women because women have this impulse to be at an elevated spirituality because of their self-effusing enlightened, feminine sensibilities.
There’s more, garden variety ways christian women do this all the time in their marriages. No tarot cards needed.
Unchecked, women easily become a firehose of unsolicited advice and criticism. Wives easily criticize their husbands for:
- Talking too much
- Talking not enough
- Talking in a loud way
- Talking in a quiet way
- Working too much
- Working too little
- Driving too fast
- Driving too slow
- Thinking too much
- Not thinking enough
- Spending too much time in recreation
- Not being fun
- Too tough on the kids
- Too easy on the kids
- Being too assertive
- Being too passive
- Waiting too long
- Rushing
The point is clear, and it can be easily observed in daily life. Women love to tell what men need to do.
And simultaneously (!) many christian women are functionally illiterate about femininity in the Bible and what they must do. Women bristle at the slightest imperatives for females from scripture.
- Be keepers at home (Titus 2:5)
- Learn in silence (1 Timothy 2:11)
- Ask questions to your husband at home (1 Corinthians 14:35)
We put away quarrelsomeness. We fold humility through our wifery. You might not actually know better. Your assessments are fallible. God gave you a very specific head, and often God will minister to your family through the instincts and desires of this husband.
Many wives would do well to talk less and pray more. Men are “won without a word by the conduct of their wives” (1 Peter 3). Swap out a quarrelsome impulse, or to be a busybody in your husband’s affairs, with prayer for him to have wisdom. Pray that if you should speak, you would come in gentle, without quarrels, prudent when to drop it, and ready to do it his way.
Your husband, regular old-Joe that he is, can be rich from how you treat him in your beautiful, inner life together.
The Proverbs ask, “who can find an excellent wife?” This question shows they are rare.
